Being referred to as a “victim” sends shivers down my spine. I am a survivor.
I am a survivor of sexual abuse and rape.
It isn’t easy to cope with, and it isn’t something which I will ever forget. However, with the help of my family and friends, I have been able to continue my life – looking towards the future.
At first, it seemed as if my entire world had collapsed and that I would never be able to continue. I felt alone. I felt scared. I felt dirty and disgusting. I felt guilty. I felt like I was to blame. I felt unsafe.
No one should ever have to feel like this. It breaks my heart knowing there are girls and boys, men and women in this world who feel the same way that I did.
It consumed my life. I thought it had ruined me and had destroyed me. I worried about what was going to happen to me if I spoke out, and I worried about how I was going to get over it. I felt like no one in the world would understand, no matter how hard I tried.
That’s why we, the survivors, have to stand together and speak up for ourselves.
We can find our safe haven. We may have to leave a relationship or break free of toxic family members, but we have a choice now as to who we share our space with.
It is up to us to make a difference in our world and eliminate our abusers. They aren’t stronger than us – no matter what the say or do, they’re pathetic and insignificant. Do NOT forget that.
Survivors be encouraged – take back your space; take back your safety; take back your joy; take back your day; take back your life.